Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Girlfriend, Fiancé, Wife

What's goin on Bull Penners, thank you for returning yet again. How's everyone doing?

So yesterday I was hanging out with two good friends of mine, and while talking to them we somehow came across the topic of spouses. Them being females they seemed to be under the impression that a man will respect them more the higher their title is. Those title being Girlfriend, Fiancé, Wife.

Now I find this a bit strange. See as a man, I've been taught to respect women regardless of anything. Granted, my girlfriend will receive a higher level of respect than a random female walking on the street, and that's not to say I will disrespect the one on the street either. However as far as respect goes, I feel that the title means little to nothing. Allow me to explain why. I feel there is no difference between us living together for 8-10 years, having a dual income, knowing each others families, sharing all we have, etc. and being married, see the only thing that changes from common law Marriage and Marriage is a simple piece of paper, and if you know my views on degrees and diploma's than you already know how I feel about a marriage certificate. So what's up ladies? You need a piece of paper to tell us what I already know? That I love you, wanna spend the rest of my life with you, that I wanna watch our children grow and become better people than we were? Nah, I think I know what it is:

I feel women are too hung up on society's rules and material things such as a wedding ring. I wonder, if I had a $5K diamond engagement ring, and proposed to a friend who I've known for about a year or so, would she say yes just because she is mesmerized by the ring? To the women reading now, would you say yes to a friend who proposed with the ring of your dreams? Regardless of your current relationship status.... I bet you said no. Ok. On the flipside, if I had a girlfriend for two years and I proposed with a $350 engagement ring would she be upset that the ring is not bigger and shinier? I thought the idea behind marriage was to share your life with the person you love, not to go and show off the ring I got you and compare it with your girlfriends and brag about who's is bigger. I can asure you tho, the ring doesn't keep you warm at night nor does it tell you "I love you" each morning. But anyway, before I stray away too far from the topic, I told my friends: I feel that if a man respects you more or less depending on your title he is a fool. Me personally I'm gonna love my girlfriend more each day, even when she is giving me a headache and I am gonna respect her the same everyday, because my level of respect for her will be at the utmost from day one. So if and when I get on one knee and propose to her I'm not gonna think: "She's my fiancé now, I gotta respect her more." No, if anything I was giving you the respect of a fiancé back when you were just my girlfriend, and the same level of respect will still be there the day we say "I Do" because that's the way it should've been all along.

So this is why these titles mean little to nothing in my head. I know plenty of people who were living together un married or un engaged when they conceived and had their first child, and even their second child for that matter. So if we already share everything and love, live and supposrt each other, technically we already are married. Unless your already thinking about the end and taking half of everything he owns I don't see the huge infatuation with marriage. This ofcourse is just my opinion. Well, I feel I've said enough. Please leave your comments and let me know how you feel about this topic.

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2 comments:

BrookiiBrooke said...

i completely agree with you on this topic. any man or woman in a relationship should give their significant other unconditional respect regardless of their "status". whether you've been dating for a few months or married for 10 years...respect is the most important part of any relationship.

♥SarahBrooke

ENO ONE.... said...

THANKS MS. BROOKE I FEEL THAT THE WOMEN WHO FEEL THE RING IS IMPORTANT ARE THE ONES THAT HAVEN'T BEEN THROUGH IT. I KNOW WOMEN WHO HAVE BEEN MARRIED AND THEY THEMSELVES HAVE TOLD ME THE RING IS JUST SOMETHING TO SHOW OFF. THE RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T CHANGE, IN FACT IT OFTEN IS DOWNHILL FROM THERE... BUT THAT'S A WHOLE DIFFERENT POST. THANKS AGAIN FOR THE COMMENT.