Friday, January 13, 2012

Wedding Bells. Now What?


What's goin on Bull Penners? First and foremost, welcome. To what? To this, my new blog. I dropped the ".blogspot", yeah I know, about time. So now it's just (did you click that link?) Lol. I have no idea why it still shows it in the browser window when you click it but I'll fix that later.

Anyway, now that we're all situated, let's get into it.
I'm not a huge fan of Reality TV aside from "Real World" and this year I couldn't even get into the current season. However one show that I came to enjoy last year was "Love and Hip-Hop." Could be because for once, at least that I could remember a rapper is behind the whole thing. Or it could be because music, especially Hip-Hop and women are amongst my highest interests. This show has both off those combined with a sight twist of niggadom. Don't judge me. So if you're not familiar with the show I strongly suggest you google it, I ain't about to sit here and break it down to you.

So recently, although I haven't been following the show as strongly as I did last year, I have been getting a few updates here and there from a good friend of mine.
Good thing I haven't been following, because apparently this season Jim Jones' lady has been going harder than ever trying to get him to marry her. This is where my topic will begin. You ready?

Ladies, have a seat let's chop it up. Please explain to me why, Why? WHY?
Why is it soooooooooo important to ya to be married?
I'm sure I've touched on this topic before, but never from this angle, so just bare with me for a minute or two. So by now you've probably answered my question in your head. Right? Well lemme tell you, that answer is not only cliche, but it's just plain fantasy.

Check this out, I'm very well aware that for you the sole purpose of marriage is simply to say that the last piece of your puzzle has been placed. I'm sure ya haven't even realized that have ya? Think about it, since birth you've had TV shows, movies, and Walt Disney telling you that you had to 1. grow up, 2. find Prince Charming and 3. get Happily ever after. Am I right or am I wrong?
Okay, that's all well and good, but let's go back to Jimmy and his lady for a second. You see Jim Jones is a man, who for whatever reason, does not seem to want to be married. His lady has asked her aunt on her opinion as to what she should do. Has had her uncle talk to Jimmy in reference to the matter and even went as far as proposing to him. WHAT?! Yea, crazy thing is on the show Jim Jones mentions that initially he wasn't even the one who approached her when they first met for the first time. "Ummmm, Hello, Knock Knock, Anybody Home? Think McFly, Think!"
From the gate this man hasn't been the one to step up to relationship, that should have been an indication as to what type of guy he is. The type of guy that doesn't do the marriage thing. Which leads me to my next question: Why desire a marriage so much with someone who doesn't share the sentiment. That has always been a killer for me.
Maybe it's my pride issue, but I'm the type of person that doesn't even want to accept a ride from someone who I know doesn't want to give it. I'd rather wait for a cab or even take the bus than to inconvenience you. I don't want to bone a girl who doesn't want to bone me. So I'd rather move on to the next than to keep knockin on a closed door like that. So this is why I cannot understand how for two seasons now Chrissy (Jim's fiance) has stuck around still beating a dead horse.
Am I making any sense? Again, don't get me wrong here, I feel marriage is a beautiful thing, but it's also something you should be cautious with, it's not something that you should force on anyone. I mean do you even think it'll be real if it's forced?

I think one thing you women fail to realize is that once that final puzzle piece is in place it's really "Happily (sometimes) Ever After." And I know you're thinkin, "well yeah, that's the point, that's great..." but do you not realize that ever Fairy Tale ending ends in "Happily Ever After" because after, there is nothing more to tell. What is "Happily Ever After" really? There's no such thing as "happily Ever After" in real life. In real Life it's more like: "And so they were married, and....." *roll credits.* Yeah, that's right, a cliff hanger with no explanation as to how the sequel will go. Lol, and I KNOW you would hate that at the theatre right? So why accept that fate in real life?

I guess when its all said and done, this blog goes back to two big questions.
1. Why force a man into marriage? What makes you think that it'll all be Wedded Bliss if he's forced?
2. Once you're actually married, then what?

Lol, if you can answer those for me and not mention money or that whole "Well I need to know that I'll be taken care of in the unfortunate event of his death".... Believe me I've heard it, then I will applaud you. Until then, shut up, sit down, and enjoy the fact you have a Boyfriend! Lol

Stay Up and Stay Tuned.


M33KS::4::MVS!C said...

Alright to answer your first question, I totally agree with you about forcing marriage on a dude. Definitely not the wisest decision a female could make Lol. Obviously if hubby does end up putting a ring on it, his heart wouldn't be in it. It'd just be a pacifier. Something to keep you there and quiet.

Now the institution of marriage has been around since the beginning of time {literally}. Adam and Eve. Man and woman were created for each other. Of course today, marriage is no longer viewed as something that's necessary or permanent. I myself want to find that life partner. Not for financial stability, but because I want that special person who I can become "one flesh" with. Someone to be the leader of my home. You know?

Baby Ties said...

Oh, so if I see the .blogspot in the domain I'm at the wrong place and no one will see it?